Pastor / Spouse Retreat

Have you ever expected too much from yourself?  Are you tired of others expecting too much from you?  This retreat will be a time to learn more about your personality, get relief from unreasonable demands, and discover new ways to stay open to God’s presence in the details of your life.

Monday evening – PSWD Moderator, Sara Haldeman-Scarr will be leading the opening worship.

Tuesday morning – Don’t hide your light under a basket!  Matthew 5:15

Learn about the Enneagram, a system of nine personality types that can help you understand yourself and others better.

Tuesday night – “Forgive them for they know not what they do.” Luke 22:34

Explore why good people doing their best bring out the worst in each other and what you can do differently.

Wednesday morning – Take off your shoes… Exodus 3:5

Choose from three kinds of conversations (Healthy conversation framework, monologues, or repeating questions) that will help you let go of unnecessary emotional blocks and open up to God’s presence in your life and in your work.

Thursday morning – “I came that you might have life and have it abundantly!” John 10:10

Choose from three kinds of conversations (Healthy conversation framework, monologues, or repeating questions) that will help you let go of unnecessary emotional blocks and open up to God’s abundance in your life and in your work.

Friday morning – Leaving and living in God’s love.  I John 4:8

Reba Herder

I’m Reba Herder, a certified Enneagram instructor, credentialed teacher, and mother of two adult daughters ordained to the ministry of prayer and peacemaking in the Church of the Brethren.  I’ve been leading conversations since I was a teenager on the youth cabinet in my congregation.  I earned a degree in Religion, a California teaching credential, Training in Ministry Certificate, and the Enneagram instructor’s certificate from Don Riso and Russ Hudson. I’ve taught in a variety of public and private school settings in the US and Ethiopia for almost two decades.  I’m an experienced conversation facilitator, trainer, and coach who’s helped thousands respond to stressful circumstances calmly and confidently.  It breaks my heart to see the damage that toxic conversations cause.  I believe humanity is capable of so much more.  I’m passionate about working together to create cultures of healthy conversations that encourage each of us to thrive at home, at work, and in our world.